I’m not always a bright ray of sunshine as much as I want to be. On some days (like yesterday), when I’m feeling under the weather, I just want to sit on the couch, and play video games. I’m sure that I am not the only person who has days like this, so when I encountered an article that lists “17 Things Happy People Say Every Day,” I thought it could pick me up and give me a couple of reminders that I can share with folks I care about, like you! :)
First off, the article was fun and informative. But since it focused on happiness as a goal, and my blog is simply about making people smile, I chose the top five phrases that resonated with me, that are so easy to remember, and that could spread positive vibes instantly.
And here they are, in no particular order:
1. “Thank You.”
From a car stopping at the pedestrian sign to let you cross, a friend listening to you rant about an off day, or a stranger holding the door open for you … showing appreciation never gets old.
2. “You’re Welcome.”
To quote that article, “saying ‘you’re welcome’ dignifies the person’s gratitude.” I am guilty of this, since I’ve substituted this with “no problem/no worries/of course!” in more recent years. I don’t know when this happened but I am planning to work “You’re welcome” back in my vocabulary today.
3. “I’m Sorry.”
This is really tough to say for some people, but sometimes, acknowledging that you are regretful of an action or that you feel sympathy for someone else’s situation can help the other person through that moment — even for a little bit. And a little bit is more than nothing.
4. “Remember When You…”
I cherish a lot of memories, but those that make me smile or laugh out loud to this day upon remembrance of said memory are on the top of that list. I noticed that when I remind people of a positive memory I have that they are part of (that sometimes they don’t even remember), their eyes light up and they beam with pride. Acknowledgment of the impact of someone’s humor, sage advice, or kind gesture years later makes one feel like they made a difference in someone’s life. And making a positive difference is one of those precious gifts that simply can’t be bought anywhere.
5. “I’m Proud of You.”
This isn’t from the article, but from personal experience. As a wife, an older sibling, and a best friend, I have learned that my opinion really matters to people close to me. Expressing that I am proud of their recent achievement means a lot to them (or so I’ve heard). :) Conversely, hearing this phrase from people who know me deeply from my passions, my strengths, to my insecurities … it tells me that they recognized my journey, the struggles it took to get there, and are now celebrating my personal triumph with me. It feels amazing and the solo victory dance that my soul was doing turns into a dance party.
So obviously this list isn’t the most revealing insight of all time, and some of us really do remember to say these at those critical moments. In which case, I am sincerely happy for you. For others, I’m hoping that this may serve as a nice reminder as we interact with loved ones, friends, or strangers. Because even when you are feeling under the weather, it is still very possible to be that little bit of sunshine in someone’s day, effortlessly. More often than not, when you realize that you’ve made them feel good, you’re going to feel good too. Win-win, my friends!
For more of these phrases, check out the article from Inc.com